Assumptions are dangerous or as my boys youth pastor used to say "don't assume anything because you will make yourself the first three letters". The first time I heard him say that I thought it was awful and HOW DARE he say such a thing to my boys and our youth.
Well over the years I have learned just how true it is.
More times than not I have found myself jumping to conclusions due to my assuming things and found that I looked and or sounded like an ass. There ya go, the first three letters.
Never would I imagine that his words would ring true over and over again. Like the time I received an email from a friend, it was almost cryptic in nature, and left a ton of open ended questions. Did I ask? No. Who was I to question what they were saying, instead it was much easier to come up with my own conclusions and assume. There again, ass.
The hideous thoughts we have, jumping to conclusions, never taking into consideration ALL possibilities but instead falling head first into a sea of self righteous indignation...oh wait, what. I'm the only one?
Tonight I sit here, waiting for someone to walk through the door, questions on my mind, assumptions of what they REALLY meant by an earlier comment, accusations in my head like those damn flying monkeys that tormented Dorothy. I have grown, I have learned a few things, so I sit here, waiting. No jumping to conclusions but asking at the right time, what did they mean, what was the reason behind their comment and what role do I play in this. Yes, I have learned a lot, grown, mostly through being damaged, hurt, crushed even. Tonight I simply say, you know your comment earlier today caused me concern, even hurt my feelings just a tad. Can we discuss it? Will you elaborate on what you said, spell it out, make it clear? Yes, I've learned a lot and it has had a high price but it has been worth every moment to find myself where I am right now.
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never ~ jumping ~ tonight ~ email ~ hideous
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Today’s post is a writing challenge. This is how it works: participating bloggers picked 4 – 6 words or short phrases for someone else to craft into a post. All words must be used at least once and all the posts will be unique as each writer has received their own set of words. That’s the challenge, here’s a fun twist; no one who’s participating knows who got their words and in what direction the writer will take them. Until now.
At the end of this post you’ll find links to the other blogs featuring this challenge. Check them all out, see what words they got and how they used them.
Links to the other “Use Your Words” posts:
Baking In A Tornado http://www.bakinginatornado.co
The Blogging 911 http://theblogging911.com/blog
On the Border
The Bergham Chronicles http://berghamchronicles.blogs
Southern Belle Charm http://www.southernbellecharm.
Bookworm in the Kitchen http://www.bookwormkitchen.com
Part-time Working Hockey Mom http://thethreegerbers.blog
Climaxed
Ohhh, this ones speaks to me. I am an awful conclusion jumper. I certainly need to hold back and listen first in certain situations.
ReplyDeleteI have learned to temper the conclusion jumping because more times than not it has bitten me in the butt.
DeleteI hate all you've gone through to get to this point, but I am so glad that you're here. I hope your issue worked itself out in a way that makes you more comfortable.
ReplyDeleteOhhh! This is so me! I stew and stew about things that really weren't meant 'that way'.
ReplyDeleteI remember in the Odd Couple. Felix tells Oscar to never 'assume' because when you do, you make an 'ass' out of 'u' and 'me'. Brilliant!
This is so brutally honest and the descriptions where spot on. I loved the reference to the monkeys~
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