True love, does it exist anymore? Do people really fall in love forever these days? It is rare if so. We live in a throw away society. It is too easy to get married and far to easy to get divorced. Folks do not respect the sanctity of marriage, the commitment, the vows. It's hard work and the majority just get busy with life, work, kids, bills, lack of money because they are living above their means and they lose sight of what brought them together in the first place. So when the relationship needs work, they walk away, it's so much easier.
Something else I have noticed. Most people who claim to be "in love" are just in lust. Not love.
Love, what is it?
According to the dictionary: love is= (found at dictionary.com)
1.
a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
2.
a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
3.
sexual passion or desire.
4.
a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.
5.
(used in direct address as a term of endearment, affection, or thelike):
Would you like to see a movie, love?
6.
a love affair; an intensely amorous incident; amour.
7.
sexual intercourse; copulation.
15.
to have love or affection for:
All her pupils love her.
16.
to have a profoundly tender, passionate affection for (anotherperson).
17.
to have a strong liking for; take great pleasure in:
to love music.
18.
to need or require; benefit greatly from:
Plants love sunlight.
19.
to embrace and kiss (someone), as a lover.
20.
to have sexual intercourse with.
21.
to have love or affection for another person; be in love.
22.
love up, to hug and cuddle:
She loves him up every chance she gets.
23.
for love,
- out of affection or liking; for pleasure.
- without compensation; gratuitously:
He took care of the poor for love.
24.
for the love of, in consideration of; for the sake of:
For the love of mercy, stop that noise.
25.
in love, infused with or feeling deep affection or passion:
a youth always in love.
26.
in love with, feeling deep affection or passion for (a person, idea,occupation, etc.); enamored of:
in love with the girl next door; in love with one's work.
27.
make love,
- to embrace and kiss as lovers.
- to engage in sexual activity.
28.
no love lost, dislike; animosity:
There was no love lost between the two brothers.
before 900; (noun) Middle English; Old English lufu, cognate with OldFrisian luve, Old High German luba, Gothic lubō; (v.) Middle Englishlov(i)en, Old English lufian; cognate with Old Frisian luvia, Old HighGerman lubōn to love, Latin lubēre (later libēre) to be pleasing; akin to lief
outlove, verb (used with object), outloved, outloving.
overlove, verb, overloved, overloving.
1. tenderness, fondness, predilection, warmth, passion, adoration. 1, 2.Love, affection, devotion all mean a deep and enduring emotional regard,usually for another person. Love may apply to various kinds of regard: thecharity of the Creator, reverent adoration toward God or toward a person,the relation of parent and child, the regard of friends for each other,romantic feelings for another person, etc. Affection is a fondness for othersthat is enduring and tender, but calm. Devotion is an intense love andsteadfast, enduring loyalty to a person; it may also imply consecration to acause. 2. liking, inclination, regard, friendliness. 15. like. 16. adore,adulate, worship.
1, 2. hatred, dislike. 15, 16. detest, hate.
With all of that said, I wonder where "real love" has gone. Couples hop from one relationship to another, one bed to another, some having several partners simultaneously. With no concern for feelings, consequences or even their life. Disease is no joke, some serious illnesses can be passed around to unsuspecting partners.
The biggest issue is this, what is real love? I think real love is finding your best friend. The one who "gets you" when others think you're weird. He finishes your sentences, knows your thoughts before you do, buys you the perfect gift every time even when you don't tell him what you want. He knows your favorite resturant, what you order, your favorite drink, color, flower, song, your worst fears, nightmares and life long dreams. He knows secrets that you've never told another living soul. And you know all these things about him as well. He has your back no matter if you're right or wrong. He knows exactly what to say and what not to, he holds you when you're scared and makes you laugh when it's inappropriate. He drives you nuts in good and bad ways. When the going gets tough, you might yell at each other, you might think about quitting but the thought of being without this person makes it difficult to breath and so you work through it. You laugh hard, you work hard, you love harder.
Does true love exist anymore? I don't know, but I'm determined to find out. I'm looking, seeking and praying to find it. I thought once I had it and was devastated when it turned out to be a ruse but I have faith, determination and a great desire to find that "one special someone" who is my "one and only" the great love of my life. I seriously hope I'm not wrong and that I'm not living some school girl fairy tale but I want all that I listed above and think that it is mine for the asking. I'm asking, I'm knocking at the door and I'm waiting.
I pray that whoever he is, he hasn't given up and settled for less than, I hope he hasn't quit looking and that one day, soon and very soon, we will find each other and in the words of a starry eyed school girl, we will live happily ever after.
It does. I found it. I had quit looking. And there it was. It's not all been fun and games and he doesn't always get it right on my likes and dislikes. That's ok. I don't on his. He can push the buttons that make me scream with rage. But at the end of the day, we still come home to each other. Don't want anyone else. we've had so much to deal with the last two years and I can't imagine going through it with anyone else in the world. So keep the faith. It WILL happen.
ReplyDeleteThank you! I'm hopeful but it's difficult
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